My Daughters’ Bedroom Dilemna – Parents, What would you do?
Disclaimer – If you are not a parent this is tedious post – please don’t fault me:-). We are currently experiencing a serious battle in our house and I am reminded again of how foolish I was to think the hard part of raising my three kids was the baby/toddler stage. Ha. As a quick reminder, my kids are 12 (daughter), soon-to-be 11 (daughter), and 9 (son). My two girls are complete opposites in nearly every way, yet still very close and basically best friends. We moved to a bigger house when I was pregnant with my younger daughter because we wanted our kids to have their own rooms. Another decision we made was to give our younger daughter the biggest (kid) bedroom, as she would be the middle child and I thought since the oldest usually got everything first, biggest, best, we would give her the best room (when I think about this, this was obviously my decision and my husband let me run with it. The logic may be somewhat flawed. ). The gods laughed again (for a while) as our girls have chosen to sleep together in my older daughter’s room (smaller) for the past 6 years. The mack-daddy room has remained pretty much unused, with the exception of sleepovers.
So the years pass, my girls are happily voluntarily sharing the cozy bedroom, and about three months ago my older daughter, who will be 13 in May, decided she wanted to sleep in her room on her own, and she also has been dying for a queen-sized bed. We decided for her 13th birthday she would get the new bed and essentially make it impossible for her sister to sleep with her, which is absolutely fine – she should have her own space if she wants it. My younger daughter abhors change but she had some warning so we thought all would be fine with the big switch. As we got closer, my younger daughter was getting more and more nervous, and finally articulated that she didn’t want to sleep in her own room because (among other reasons) it was too big and her sister’s room was cozier.
Last night we came up with the brainstorm of the girls switching bedrooms. My older soon-to-be teen daughter could have the big room with the new big bed, and my younger daughter could have the cozy room she was familiar with. Everyone is excited – my older daughter over the moon. Fast forward to bedtime last night, when my younger daughter, as she contemplates moving her things from her room and making the big change soon…..CHANGES HER MIND (I hate all caps but this decision warrants it).
My older daughter cried herself to sleep (her heart was set on the new luxurious room), my younger daughter is upset her sister is upset with her. My husband and I have said it is my younger daughter’s room, so she can decide to keep it, but in the back of my mind I think my older daughter really would appreciate the room more and I could force the switch.
Parents, what would you do?