Comments on: My Daughters’ Bedroom Dilemna - Parents, What would you do?

By: lilmamaevans

lilmamaevans — Wed, 17 Apr 2013 20:27:11 +0000

If it was me I would also make them stand by the original decision, but because I am the softer parent and want everyone happy I would maybe do some new paint in the smaller bedroom of the youngest choice or do something that she would want in there to help he feel more comfortable.

By: Lori Carlisle

Lori Carlisle — Sat, 02 Mar 2013 12:53:05 +0000

First i would make sure that your youngest daughter didnt change her mind because she dosent want a room to her self. But also she has to be taught to stick to her agreements. and remind her that her room will seem bigger without all of her sisters stuff in there too

By: JAG 512

JAG 512 — Fri, 01 Mar 2013 00:10:12 +0000

I also believe that the youngest should have had to stand by her decision. Part of growing up is to be able to weigh the pros and cons of a situation, make a decision, and stand by it. Once she said yes to the new arrangement, it was a done deal. Hopefully they will be able to get back to that state. Maybe the older sister could involve the younger one in redecorating their rooms since they will both have their own? They could go shopping together at PBKids/Teens or wherever to BOTH be excited about the change. And maybe big sister could have sleepovers with her younger sibling in the bigger room from time to time. I hope this is the worst that comes between them in life! Hope to see you in Austin for SXSW!

By: Last minute lady

Last minute lady — Thu, 28 Feb 2013 14:06:52 +0000

That is so sweet. It’s only the first step in their gaining independence. It’s kind of sad and scary-they’re growing up!!

By: Heidi Bhan

Heidi Bhan — Wed, 27 Feb 2013 19:49:30 +0000

I would make the decision stand, your younger daughter needs to learn that her word is good. She will probably be happier in her cozy room after all. Your older daughter will appreciate you as parents stood by her and your younger daughter will soon appreciate and know that you as parents keep your word too.

By: Plan B Mom

Plan B Mom — Wed, 27 Feb 2013 19:27:11 +0000

@Karisa - my older daughter suggested the change and my younger daughter agreed. @Madeline - that is good advice - I am sure the discussion will continue tonight. Side note: the change was suggested at dinner last night, and the decision change was made 2 hours later at bed time. I will keep you posted!

By: Karisa

Karisa — Wed, 27 Feb 2013 18:57:08 +0000

Did the girls agree to switch (prior to your younger daughter changing her mind)? Or did you and your husband decide for the girls? If the decission was made by the girls and they agreed, then your younger daughter needs to stand by her agreement of chaning rooms and make the change. If on the other hand, the decission to make the change belonged to you and your husband, then the girls need to stick where they are. Life is hard and making decissions is even harder. However as the girls grow up they need to know their decissions are their word and they need to stand by their word.

By: Madeline

Madeline — Wed, 27 Feb 2013 17:09:13 +0000

I think I would step out of it and let the two of them make a decision and come to you with it. They can learn the lesson of compromise and conflict resolution and you can spare yourself from all the drama. Unless there is some important reason for you to be involved, isn’t it really a situation they can figure out for themselves?